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Great leaders tap into the needs and fears we all share. Great managers, by contrast, perform their magic by discovering, developing, and celebrating what’s different about each person who works for them. Here’s how they do it. What Great Managers Do by Marcus Buckingham

―The best boss I ever had. That‘s a phrase most of us have said at some point, but what does it mean? What sets the great boss apart from the average boss? The literature is rife with provocative writing about the qualities of managers and leaders and whether the two differ, but little has been said about what happens in the thousands of daily interactions and decisions that allows managers to get the best out of their people and win their devotion. What do great managers actually do?

In my research, beginning with a survey of 80,000 managers conducted by the Gallup Organization and continuing during the past two years with in-depth studies of a few top performers, I‘ve found that while there are as many styles of management as there are managers, there is one quality that sets truly great managers apart from the rest: They discover what is unique about each person and then capitalize on it. Average managers play checkers, while great managers play chess. The difference? In checkers, all the

pieces are uniform and move in the same way; they are interchangeable. You need to plan and coordinate their movements, certainly, but they all move at the same pace, on parallel paths. In chess, each type of piece moves in a different way, and you can‘t play if you don‘t know how each piece moves. More important, you won‘t win if you don‘t think carefully about how you move the pieces. Great managers know and value the unique abilities and even the eccentricities of their employees, and they learn how best to integrate them into a coordinated plan of attack.

This is the exact opposite of what great leaders do. Great leaders discover what is

universal and capitalize on it. Their job is to rally people toward a better future. Leaders can succeed in this only when they can cut through differences of race, sex, age,

nationality, and personality and, using stories and celebrating heroes, tap into those very few needs we all share. The job of a manager, meanwhile, is to tum one person‘s

particular talent into performance. Managers will succeed only when they can identify and deploy the differences among people, challenging each employee to excel in his or her own way. This doesn‘t mean a leader can‘t be a manager or vice versa. But to excel at one or both, you must be aware of the very different skills each role requires. The Game of Chess

What does the chess game look like in action? When I visited Michelle Miller, the manager who opened Walgreens‘4,000th store, I found the wall of her back office papered with work schedules. Michelle‘s store in Redondo Beach, California, employs

people with sharply different skills and potentially disruptive differences in personality. A critical part of her job, therefore, is to put people into roles and shifts that will allow them to shine—and avoid putting clashing personalities together. At the same time, she needs to find ways for individuals to grow.

There‘s Jeffrey, for example, a ‗goth rocker‖ whose hair is shaved on one side and long enough on the other side to cover his face. Michelle almost didn‘t hire him because he couldn‘t quite look her in the eye during his interview, but he wanted the hard-to-cover night shift, so she decided to give him a chance.

After a couple of months, she noticed that when she gave Jeffrey a vague assignment, such as ―Straighten up the merchandise in every aisle,‖ what should have been a two-hour job would take him all night—and wouldn‘t be done very well. But if she gave him a more specific task, such as ―Put up all the risers for Christmas,‖ all the risers would be symmetrical with the right merchandise on each one, perfectly priced, labeled, and

―faced‖ (turned toward the customer). Give Jeffrey a generic task, and he would struggle. Give him one that forced him to be accurate and analytical, and be would excel. This, Michelle concluded, was Jeffrey‘s forte. So, as any good manager would do, she told him what she had deduced about him and praised him for his good work.

And a good manager would have left it at that. But Michelle knew she could get more out of Jeffrey. So she devised a scheme to reassign responsibilities across the entire store to capitalize on his unique strengths. In every Walgreens, there is a responsibility called ―resets and revisions.‘ A reset involves stocking an aisle with new merchandise, a task that usually coincides with a predictable change in customer buying patterns (at the end of summer, for example the stores will replace sun creams and lip balms with allergy medicines). A revision is a less time-consuming but more frequent version of the same thing: Replace these cartons of toothpaste with this new and improved variety. Display this new line of detergent at this end of the row. Each aisle requires some form of revision at least once a week.

In most Walgreens stores, each employee ―owns‖ one aisle where she is responsible not only for serving customers but also for facing the merchandise, keeping the aisle clean and orderly, tagging items with a Telxon gun, and conducting all resets and revisions. This arrangement is simple and efficient, and it affords each employee a sense of

personal responsibility. But Michelle decided that since Jeffrey was so good at resets and revisions - and didn‘t enjoy interacting with customers - this should be his full-time job, in every single aisle.

It was a challenge. One week‘s worth of revisions requires a binder three inches thick. But Michelle reasoned that not only would Jeffrey be excited by the challenge and get better and better with practice, but other employees would be freed from what they considered a chore and have more time to greet and serve customers. The store‘s

performance proved her right. After the reorganization, Michelle saw not only increases in sales and profit but also in that most critical performance metric, customer satisfaction. In the subsequent four months, her store netted perfect scores in Walgreens‘ mystery shopper program.

So far, so very good. Sadly, it didn‘t last. This ―perfect‖ arrangement depended on Jeffrey remaining content, and he didn‘t. With his success at doing resets and revisions, his confidence grew, and six months into the job, he wanted to move into management. Michelle wasn‘t disappointed by this, however; she was intrigued. She had watched Jeffrey‘s progress closely and had already decided that he might do well as a manager, though he wouldn‘t be a particularly emotive one. Besides, like any good chess player, she had been thinking a couple of moves ahead.

Over in the cosmetics aisle worked an employee named Genoa. Michelle saw Genoa as something of a double threat. Not only was she adept at putting customers at ease—she remembered their names, asked good questions, was welcoming yet professional when answering the phone—but she was also a neatnik. The cosmetics department was always perfectly faced, every product remained aligned, and everything was arranged just so. Her aisle was sexy: It made you want to reach out and touch the merchandise.

To capitalize on these twin talents, and to accommodate Jeffrey‘s desire for promotion, Michelle shuffled the roles within the store once again. She split Jeffrey‘s reset and revision job in two and gave the ―revision‖ part of it to Genoa so that the whole store could now benefit from her ability to arrange merchandise attractively. But Michelle didn‘t want the store to miss out on Genoa‘s gift for customer service, so Michelle asked her to focus on the revision role only between 8:30 AM and 11:30 AM, and after that, when the store began to fill with customers on their lunch breaks, Genoa should shift her focus over to them.

She kept the reset role with Jeffrey. Assistant managers don‘t usually have an ongoing responsibility in the store, but, Michelle reasoned, he was now so good and so fast at tearing an aisle apart -and rebuilding it that he could easily finish a major reset during a five-hour stint, so he could, handle resets along with his managerial responsibilities. By the time you read this, the Jeffrey-Genoa configuration has probably outlived its usefulness, and Michelle has moved on to design other effective and inventive

configurations. The ability to keep tweaking roles to capitalize on the uniqueness of each person is the essence of great management. A manager‘s approach to capitalizing on differences can vary tremendously from place to place. Walk into the back office at another Walgreens, this one in San Jose, California, managed by Jim Kawashima, and you won‘t see a single work schedule. Instead, the walls are covered with sales figures and statistics, the best of them circled with red felt-tip pen, and dozens of photographs of sales contest winners, most featuring a customer service representative named Manjit. Manjit outperforms her peers consistently. When I first heard about her, she had just won a competition in Walgreens‘ suggestive selling program to sell the most units of Gillette deodorant in a month. The national average was 300; Manjit had sold 1,600. Disposable cameras, toothpaste, batteries—you name it, she could sell it. And Manjit won contest after contest despite working the graveyard shift, from 12:30 am to 8:30 am, during which she met significantly fewer customers than did her peers.

Manjit hadn‘t always been such an exceptional performer. She became stunningly

successful only when Jim, who has made a habit of resuscitating troubled stores, came on board. What did Jim do to initiate the change in Manjit? He quickly picked up on her idiosyncrasies and figured out how to translate them into outstanding performance. For

example, back in India, Manjit was an athlete—a runner and a weight lifter—and had always thrilled to the challenge of measured performance. When I interviewed her, one of the first things out of her mouth was, ―On Saturday, I sold 343 low-carb candy bars. On Sunday, I sold 367. Yesterday, 110, and today, 105.‖ I asked if she always knows how well she‘s doing. ―Oh yes,‘ she replied. ―Every day I check Mr. K‘s charts. Even on my day off, I make a point to come in and check my numbers?‖

Manjit loves to win and revels in public recognition. Hence, Jim‘s walls are covered with charts and figures, Manjit‘s scores are always highlighted in red, and there are photos documenting her success. Another manager might have asked Manjit to curb her enthusiasm for the limelight and give someone else a chance. Jim found a way to capitalize on it.

But what about Jim‘s other staff members? Instead of being resentful of Manjit‘s public recognition, came to understand that Jim took the time to see them as individuals based on their personal strengths. They also knew that Manjit‘s success spoke well of the entire store, so her success galvanised the team. In fact, before long, the pictures of Manjit began to include other employees from the store, too. After a few months, the San Jose location was ranked number one out of 4,000 in Walgreen‘s suggestive selling program. Great Managers Are Romantics

Think back to Michelle. Her creative choreography may sound like a last resort, an attempt to make the best of a bad hire. It‘s not. Jeffrey and Genoa are not mediocre

employees, and capitalizing on each person‘s uniqueness is a tremendously powerful tool. First, identifying and capitalizing on each person‘s uniqueness saves time. No employee, however talented, is perfectly well-rounded. Michelle could have spent untold hours coaching Jeffrey and cajoling him into smiling at, making friends with, and remembering the names of customers, but she probably would have seen little result for her efforts. Her time was much better spent carving out a role that took advantage of Jeffrey‘s natural abilities.

Second, capitalizing on uniqueness makes each person more accountable. Michelle didn‘t just praise Jeffrey for his ability to execute specific assignments. She challenged him to make this ability the cornerstone of his contribution to the store, to take ownership for this ability, to practice it, and to refine it.

Third, capitalizing on what is unique about each person builds a stronger sense of team, because it creates interdependency. It helps people appreciate one anothers‘ particular skills and learn that their coworkers can fill in where they are lacking. In short, it makes people need one another. The old cliché is that there‘s no ―I‖ in ―team?‘ But as Michael Jordan once said, ―There may be no ‗I‘ in ‗team; but there is in win?‖

Finally, when you capitalize on what is unique about each person, you introduce a

healthy degree of disruption into your world. You shuffle existing hierarchies: If Jeffrey is in charge of all resets and revisions in the store, should he now command more or less respect than an assistant manager? You also shuffle existing assumptions about who is allowed to do what: If Jeffrey devises new methods of resetting an aisle, does he have to ask permission to try these out, or can he experiment on his where the true expertise lies: If Genoa comes up with a way of arranging new merchandise that she thinks is more

appealing than the method suggested by the ‗planogram‘ sent down from Walgreens headquarters, does her expertise trump the planners back at corporate? These questions will challenge Walgreens‘ orthodoxies and thus will help the company become more inquisitive, more intelligent, more vital, and despite its size, more able to duck and weave into the future.

All that said, the reason great managers focus on uniqueness isn‘t just because it makes good business sense They do it because they can‘t help it. Like Shelley and Keats, the nineteenth-century Romantic poets, great managers are fascinated with individuality for its own sake. Fine shadings of personality, though they may be invisible to some and frustrating to others, are crystal clear to and highly valued by great managers. They could no more ignore these subtleties than ignore their own needs and desires. Figuring out what makes people tick is simply in their nature. The Three Levers

Although the Romantics were mesmerized by differences, at some point, managers need to rein in their inquisitiveness, gather up what they know about a person, and put the

employee‘s idiosyncrasies to use. To that end, there are three things you must know about than an assistant manager? You also shuffle someone to manage her well: her strengths, the triggers that activate those strengths, and how she learns.

Make the most of strengths. It takes time and effort to gain a full appreciation of an employee‘s strengths and weaknesses. The great manager spends a good deal of time outside the office walking around, watching each person‘s reactions to events, listening, and taking mental notes about what each individual is drawn to and what each person struggles with. There‘s no substitute for this kind of observation, but you can obtain a lot of information about a person by asking a few simple, open- ended questions and

listening carefully to the answers. Two queries in particular have proven most revealing when it comes to identifying strengths and weaknesses, and I recommend asking them of all new hires—and revisiting the questions periodically.

To identify a person‘s strengths, first ask, ―What was the best day at work you‘ve had in the past three months?‖ Find out what the person was doing and why he enjoyed it so much. Remember: A strength is not merely some thing you are good at. In fact, it might be something you aren‘t good at yet. It might be just a predilection, something you find so intrinsically satisfying that you look forward to doing it again and again and getting better at it over time. This question will prompt your employee to start thinking about his interests and abilities from this perspective.

To identify a person‘s weaknesses, just invert the question: ―What was the worst day you‘ve had at work in the past three months?‖ And then probe for details about what he was doing and why it grated on him so much. As with a strength, a weakness is not merely something you are bad at (in fact, you might be quite competent at it). It is

something that drains you of energy, an activity that you never look forward to doing and that when you are doing it, all you can think about is stopping.

Although you‘re keeping an eye out for both the strengths and weaknesses of your

employees, your focus should be on their strengths. Conventional wisdom holds that self-

awareness is a good thing and that it‘s the job of the manager to identify weaknesses and create a plan for overcoming them. But re search by Albert Bandura, the father of social learning theory, has shown that self-assurance (labeled ―self-efficacy‖ by cognitive psychologists), not self-awareness, is the strongest predictor of a person‘s ability to set high goals, to persist in the face of obstacles, to bounce back when reversals occur, and, ultimately, to achieve the goals they set. By contrast, self awareness has not been shown to be a predictor of any of these outcomes, and in some cases, it appears to retard them. Great managers seem to understand this instinctively. They know that their job is not to arm each employee with dispassionately accurate understanding of the limits of her strengths and the liabilities of her weaknesses but to reinforce her self-assurance. That‘s why great managers focus on strengths. When a person succeeds, the great manager

doesn‘t praise her hard work. Even if there‘s some exaggeration in the statement, he tells her that she succeeded because she has become so good at deploying her s strengths. This, the manager knows, will strengthen the employee‘s self-as and make her more optimistic and more resilient in the face of challenges to come.

The focus-on-strengths approach might create in the employee a modicum of overconfidence, but great managers mitigate this by emphasizing the size and the

difficulty of the employee‘s goals. They know that their primary objective is to create in each employee a specific state of mind: one that includes a realistic assessment of the difficulty of the obstacle ahead but an unrealistically optimistic belief in her ability to overcome it.

And what if the employee fails? Assuming the failure is not attributable to factors beyond her control, always explain failure as a lack of effort, even if this is only partially accurate. This will obscure self-doubt and give her some thing to work on as she faces up to the next challenge. Repeated failure, of course, may indicate weakness where a role requires strength. In such cases, there are four approaches for over coming weaknesses. If the problem

amounts to a lack of skill or knowledge, that‘s easy to solve: Simply offer the relevant training, allow some time for the employee to incorporate the new skills, and look for signs of improvement. If her performance doesn‘t get better, you‘ll know that the reason she‘s struggling is because she is missing certain talents, a deficit no amount of skill or knowledge training is likely to fix. You‘ll have to find a way to manage around this weakness and neutralize it.

Which brings us to the second strategy for overcoming an employee weakness. Can you find her a partner, someone whose talents are strong in precisely the areas where hers are weak? Here‘s how this strategy can look in action. As vice president of merchandising for the women‘s clothing retailer Ann Taylor, Judi Langley found that tensions were rising between her and one of her merchandising managers, Claudia (not her real name), whose analytical mind and intense nature created an overpowering ―need to know‖. If Claudia learned of something before Judi had a chance to review it with her, she would become deeply frustrated. Given the speed with which decisions were made, and given Judi‘s busy schedule, this happened frequently. Judi was concerned that Claudia‘s

irritation was unsettling the whole product team, not to mention earning the employee a reputation as a malcontent.

An average manager might have identified this behaviour as a weakness and lectured Claudia on how to control her need for information. Judi, however, realized that this ―weak- ness was an aspect of Claudia‘s greatest strength: her analytical mind. Claudia would never be able to rein it in, at least not for long. So Judi looked for a strategy that would honour and support Claudia‘s need to know, while channelling it more

productively. Judi decided to act as Claudia‘s information partner, and she committed to leaving Claudia a voice mail at the end of each day with a brief update. To make sure nothing fell through the cracks, they set up two live ―touch base‖ conversations per week. This solution managed Claudia‘s expectations and assured her that she would get the information she needed, if not exactly when she wanted it, then at least at frequent and predictable intervals. Giving Claudia a partner neutralized the negative manifestations of her strength, allowing her to focus her analytical mind on her work. (Of course, in most cases, the partner would need to be someone other than a manager.)

Should the perfect partner prove hard to find, try this third strategy: Insert into the

employee‘s world a technique that helps accomplish through discipline what the person can‘t accomplish through instinct. I met one very successful screenwriter and director who had struggled with telling other professionals, such as composers and directors of photography, that their work was not up to snuff. So he devised a mental trick: He now imagines what the ―god of art‖ would want and uses this imaginary entity as a source of strength. In his mind, he no longer imposes his own opinion on his colleagues but rather tells himself (and them) that an authoritative third party has weighed in.

If training produces no improvement, if complementary partnering proves impractical, and if no nifty discipline technique can be found, you are going to have to try the fourth and final strategy, which is to rearrange the employee‘s working world to render his

weakness irrelevant as Michelle Miller did with Jeffrey. This strategy will require of you, first, the creativity to envision a more effective arrangement and, second, the courage to make that arrangement work. But as Michelle‘s experience revealed, the payoff that may come in the form of increased employee productivity and engagement is well worth it. Trigger good performance. A person‘s strengths aren‘t always on display. Sometimes they require precise triggering to turn them on. Squeeze the right trigger, and a person will push himself harder and persevere in the face of resistance. Squeeze the wrong one, and the person may well shut down. This can be tricky because triggers come in myriad and mysterious forms. One employee‘s trigger might be tied to the time of day (he is a night owl, and his strengths only kick in after 3 PM). Another employee‘s trigger might be tied to time with you, the boss (even though he‘s worked with you for more than five years, he still needs you to check in with him every day, or he feels he‘s being ignored). Another worker‘s trigger might be just the opposite—independence (she‘s only worked for you for six months, but if you check in with her even once a week, she feels micromanaged).

The most powerful trigger by far is recognition, not money. If you‘re not convinced of this, start ignoring one of your highly paid stars, and watch what happens. Most managers are aware that employees respond well to recognition, Great managers refine and extend this insight. They realize that each employee plays to a slightly different audience. To excel as a manager, you must be able to match the employee to the audience he values most. One employee‘s audience might be his peers; the best way to praise him would be

to stand him up in front of his coworkers and publicly celebrate his achievement.

Another‘s ‗favourite audience might be you; the most powerful recognition would be a one-on-one conversation where you tell him quietly but vividly why he is such a valuable member of the team. Still another employee might define himself by his expertise; his most prized form of recognition would be some type of professional or technical award. Yet another might value feedback only from customers, in which case a picture of the employee with her best customer or a letter to her from the customer would be the best form of recognition.

Given how much personal attention it requires, tailoring praise to fit the person is mostly a manager‘s responsibility But organizations can take a cue from this, too. There‘s no reason why a large company can‘t take this individualized approach to recognition and apply it to every employee. Of all the companies I‘ve encountered, the North American division of HSBC, a London-based bank, has done the best job of this. Each year it presents its top individual consumer-lending performers with its Dream Awards. Each winner receives a unique prize. During the year, managers ask employees to identify what they would like to receive should they win. The prize value is capped at $10,000, and it cannot be redeemed as cash, but beyond those two restrictions, each employee is free to pick the prize he wants. At the end of the year, the company holds a Dream Awards gala, during which it shows a video about the winning employee and why he selected his particular prize.

You can imagine the impact these personalized prizes have on HSBC employees. It‘s one thing to be brought up on stage and given yet another plaque. It‘s another thing when, in addition to public recognition of your performance, you receive a college tuition fund for your child, or the Harley-Davidson motorcycle you‘ve always dreamed of, or—the prize every one at the company still talks about—the air line tickets to fly you and your family back to Mexico to visit the grandmother you haven‘t seen in ten years.

Tailor to learning styles. Although there are many learning styles, a careful review of adult learning theory reveals that three styles predominate. These three are not mutually exclusive; certain employees may rely on a combination of two or perhaps all three. Nonetheless less, staying attuned to each employee‘s style or styles will help focus your coaching. First, there‘s analyzing. Claudia from Ann Taylor is an analyzer. She understands a task by taking it apart, examining its elements, and reconstructing it piece by piece. Because every single component of a task is important in her eyes, she craves information. She needs to absorb all there is to know about a subject before she can begin to feel

comfortable with it. If she doesn‘t feel she has enough information, she will dig and push until she gets it. She will read the assigned reading. She will attend the required classes. She will fake good notes. She will study. And she will want more.

The best way to teach an analyzer is to give her ample time in the classroom. Role-play with her. Do post-mortem exercises with her. Break her performance down into its

component parts so she can carefully build it back up. Allows allow her time to prepare. The analyser hates mistakes. A commonly held view is that mistakes fuel learning, but for the analyzer this just isn‘t true. In fact, the reason she prepares so diligently is to

minimize the possibility of mistakes. So don‘t expect to teach her much by throwing her into a new situation and telling her to wing it.

The opposite is true for the second dominant learning style, doing. While the most powerful learning moments for the analyser occur prior to the performance, the doer‘s most powerful moments occur during the performance. Trial and error are integral to this learning process. Jeffrey, from Michelle Miller‘s store, is a doer. He learns the most while he‘s in the act of figuring things out for himself. For him, preparation is a dry, uninspiring activity. So rather than role-play with some one like Jeffrey, pick a specific task within his role that is simple but real, give him a brief overview of the outcomes you want, and get out of his way. Then gradually increase the degree of each task‘s

complexity until he has mastered every aspect of his role. He may make a few mistakes along the way, but for the doer, mistakes are the raw material for learning.

Finally, there‘s watching. Watchers won‘t learn much through role-playing. They won‘t learn by doing, either. Since most formal training programs incorporate both of these elements, watchers are often viewed as rather poor students. That may be true, but they aren‘t necessarily poor learners.

Watchers can learn a great deal when they are given the chance to see the total performance. Studying the individual parts of a task is as meaningful for them as

studying the individual pixels of a digital photograph. What‘s important for this type of learner is the content of each pixel, its position relative to all the others. Watchers are only able to see this when they view the complete picture.

As it happens, this is the way I learn. Years ago, when I first began interviewing, I

struggled to learn the skill of creating a report on a person after I had interviewed him. I understood all the required steps, but I couldn‘t seem to put them together. Some of my colleagues could knock out a report in an hour for me, it would take the better part of a day. Then one afternoon, as I was staring morosely into my Dictaphone, I overheard the voice of the analyst next door. He was talking so rapidly that I initially thought he was on the phone. Only after a few minutes did I realize that he was dictating a report. This was the first time I had heard someone ―in the act?‘ I‘d seen the finished results countless times, since reading the reports of others was the way we were supposed to learn, but I‘d never actually heard another analyst in the act of creation. It was a revelation. I finally saw how everything should come together into a .coherent whole. I remember picking up my Dictaphone, mimicking the cadence and even the accent of my neighbour, and feeling the words begin to flow.

If you‘re trying to teach a watcher, by far the most effective technique is to get her out of the classroom. Take her away from the manuals, and make her ride shotgun with one of your most experienced performers.

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We‘ve seen, in the stories of great managers like Michelle Miller and Judi Langley, that at the very heart of their success lies an appreciation for individuality. This is not to say that managers don‘t need other skills. They need to be able to hire well, to set

expectations, and to interact productively with their own bosses, just to name a few. But what they do—instinctively—is play chess. Mediocre managers assume (or hope) that

their employees will all be motivated by the same things and driven by the same goals, that they will desire the same kinds of relationships and learn in roughly the same way. They define the behaviours they expect from people and tell them to work on behaviours that don‘t come naturally. They praise those who can overcome their natural styles to conform to preset ideas. In short, they believe manager‘s job is to mold, or transform each employee into the perfect version of the role.

Great managers don‘t try to change a per son‘s style. They never try to push a knight to move in the same way as a bishop. They know that their employees will differ in how they think, how they build relationships, how altruistic they are, how patient they can be, how much of an expert they need to be, how prepared they need to be, what drives them, what challenges them and what their goals are. These differences of trait and talent are like blood types: They cut across the superficial variations of race, sex, and age and capture the essential uniqueness of each individual.

Like blood types, the majority of these differences are enduring and resistant to change. A manager‘s most precious resource is time, and great managers know that the most effective way to invest their time is to identify exactly how each employee is different and then to figure out how best to incorporate those enduring idiosyncrasies into the overall plan.

To excel at managing others, you must bring that insight to your actions and interactions. Always remember that great managing is about release, not transformation. It‘s about constantly tweaking your environment so that the unique contribution, the unique needs, and the unique style of each employee can be given free rein. Your success as a manager will depend almost entirely on your ability to do this.